Support Group Meetings

We meet at 6:45p.m. on the second Tuesday of each month at Trinity Cathedral§ (Euclid Ave & E 22nd Street). Please visit our "Calendar" page to see when our next Support Group meeting will be held. All are welcome.
§ - While we are grateful to Trinity Cathedral for hosting our meetings, please know we are not affiliated with any religious organization. 

Lighted, secure parking is accessible behind the church on Prospect Avenue. First-time visitors may wish to arrive 10 minutes early so that we can let you know more about what to expect.

Parents, other family members, and friends who have just learned of their loved one's sexuality can discover that they are not alone, and can receive help and support in dealing with their feelings. By meeting similarly identified people, new members come to realize that LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning) persons are found in every ethnic, social, and occupational group. Indeed, they represent approximately 10% of the world's population, and one in every four families has an LGBTQ member.

Through attendance at our monthly group meetings, prejudicial and stereotyped views of homosexuality begin to dissolve, and understanding and acceptance emerge.

During our monthly meetings, we invite our members to introduce themselves and to tell us more about their lives and relationships. Occasionally new members feel more comfortable listening and learning from the conversations that develop. In any case, all are welcome... even if it's just to listen.

We meet for approximately 90 minutes in a unified group and later, for approximately 30 minutes in small, casual groups that form spontaneously. One is likely to hear some familiar stories including:

  • Individuals facing "coming out" dilemmas with their families.

  • Parents struggling to accept their son's or daughter's sexuality.

  • Spouses who have just learned of their husband's or wife's homosexuality.

  • Overcoming fear and hatred toward gays in society today.

  • LGBT couples who are celebrating their long-term relationships and anniversaries together.

  • Parents who have worked through difficult times with shame and embarrassment and who help lead other parents toward love and acceptance.

  • Gay parents talking about their children and former spouses.
Weather Statement: During the winter, inclement weather can interfere with our ability to hold regular support group meetings. Please check first with Trinity Cathedral (216-771-3630) for information on event cancellations. If Trinity has cancelled events, the PFLAG Cleveland support group is also cancelled. The PFLAG Cleveland Advisory Board will make every effort to use its group listserv and website to update you on any cancellations. Trinity may provide special parking instructions during the winter season. We will advise you of changes.

Marianne Buccini

Back story, somewhere between 12 and 13, my boisterous, happy, funny daughter went quiet. Spending most of her free time alone. We would force her to come with us shopping or to events, Church, etc. but always she would return to her room. I thought, teenage angst, she was finding herself. You need to also know that she was a sickly child, many colds, sinus, ear infections, more than normal. Around that time, she became sicker, missing extreme amounts of school and much of her summers due to sicknesses of varying natures. Eventually extreme side pains, followed by just about every test medically you can do to find out why my child was in unexplainable chronic debilitating pain. Unknown to her mother and I was that she was also self-harming during that time.

June 2014 my amazing daughter came out to our family, and by that fall, she was basically healthy. How horrible to learn that because she was afraid to come out to us and to be honest with herself, she was eating herself alive.

That fall we learned of PFLAG and pondered the idea of an LGBT support group for families and friends and what that may mean for us. I can tell you what I learned it stands for. PFLAG to me is a safe place, with caring and kind people of all race, creed and orientation. Fathers, Mothers, Siblings, Children, Grandparents, Friends. Beyond that, the only other description is People. A true melting pot. I also learned that all those horrible stereotypes that clouded/colored my opinions and feelings, well those stereotypes were all destroyed by PFLAG and its members.

Not one single
homosexual person has come on to me or my wife. I haven't seen any feather boas, leather chaps, or overly flamboyant persons making everyone uncomfortable. Just people. People with real pain. People with deep hurts. People with great joy. People with tremendous pride. Loving people. People I consider friends.
I learned that while I thought I was loving and compassionate, I was living in a very small circle of like minded people who all thought the same thing. We are loving and compassionate, and we are right and everyone else is wrong. Boy was I wrong. A good intentioned bigot is still a bigot. We have since moved to an Open and Affirming Church and through the counsel of numerous wise people and PFLAG, begun to unravel the 40+ years of learned opinions and well intentioned but misguided truths.

My daughter is very patient with me (and wise beyond her years)allowing me to be fatherly (sometimes) and spout off about the do's and don'ts of life and my concerns for her. She and PFLAG are helping me to understand more about myself than I like to admit and shine our light on areas where I am bigoted without even knowing I was. I am proud of my daughter and the woman she is becoming. You'd be lucky to know her. I love her.
Randy Webb, Proud Father, Christian and Recovering Bigot